“Your mind can only hold one thought at a time, make it a positive and constructive one.”
As simple as these words may seem, they are in fact, very true.
If one is looking for a way to feel better at any given moment, all one has to do is to change what one is focusing on. Our brain is a very powerful tool that we own ,and we should use to our advantage.
The best way to control focus is to ask oneself good questions.
Such as, “What can I find that is good in this situation?”
“What have I learned from this that will make me more successful the next time?”
“How can I make this situation better?”
By asking oneself effective questions, one would force the brain to look for and find a solution as to what he/she can do to solve a problem and how one can make a situation better.
On the other hand, if one asks self self-defeating questions such as,
“Why does this always happen to me?”
“Why can’t I have that?”
“What did I do to deserve this?”
The brain will look for those exact answers and tell you why bad things happen to you, why you can’t have something and why you deserve something bad.
This way one is confirming to oneself why one doesn’t deserve something and why bad things happen to him. Now it’s one thing when someone else tells you something like that, but when you tell it to yourself, you are sure to believe it! I guarantee you will always believe yourself on a subconscious level if not on a conscious level. In other words, be careful what you ask for!
Understanding this, next time you find yourself in a less than desirable situation, be sure to find the positive side of it and focus your attention on that. Not only will you feel better about the situation but also you will actually be in a better frame of mind to work through it.
With this mindset you will find yourself focusing on the solution rather than the problem.
Copyright (c) 1999 Glen Hopkins
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